Posted By admin on December 27, 2009
By Mey Lia
Have you ever felt lonely though you have lots of friends surrounding you? Did you ever feel that you need someone to understand you more than your couple understands you?
If you felt that way, you need an intimacy with your couple to share of deep feeling and secrets. It’s useless even though you have a lot of friends but you have never been able to be open to them, then you will still feel lonely. And one thing that I can assure you that the loneliness will cause a depression.
Why sometimes it happens in our life that two of close friends can fall in love with each others? It’s because sometimes they feel lonely and they feel that they can complement each other, when they shared of their burden, they can feel relate and then the feeling gradually is starting to grow and it made them to fall in love to compensate their feelings of loneliness.
So the point is that you can sometimes fall in love often and easily with your close friends not because of you really love them, instead of both of you feeling lonely, but if it’s the reason you fall in love with someone, then the result is not good at the end as it will cause a break up.
If you’re in a relationship, but still you feel lonely then there is an intimacy problem between two of you. You must ask these questions: did you really share everything each other such as your emotions, secrets, etc? or you just keep hiding your feeling? Because if you’re not open toward each other, it will reduce intimacy between two of you and it will surely increase the feeling of loneliness yet you’re in a relationship.
So if you want to stop your loneliness and to deal with it, then you must form intimate relationship with your close friends and be open to them. If you’re in a relationship, then you have to share your deepest emotions and secrets with your partner, share your problems with him or her and please try to avoid sacrificing intimacy just because for acceptance.
Posted By admin on September 12, 2009
By Mey Lia
When you has growth to be an adult; of course you are starting to think about the next life of yours; you need to find someone to love and will spend time together till the rest of your time. Yet, not all of people can get someone to love or even just a date.
The case is more often happened in women. It is because women have a more sensitive feeling and they often feel ashamed when they plan to ask out a man. If you are one of such women; you can try some tips below:
Just being an interesting woman.
To be interesting; there are many things to do. You don’t have to have ideal shape and weight of body. You can be interesting from other sides such as good personality, smart, interesting dressing up, good achievement, etc.
Show that you have kinds of capability.
Man may love a smart lady and the hard worker one. But he will never get interested with a woman who is just good at work and always busy. Every man prefers a woman who is good in both carrier and love.
Even you are interesting and you also hope a relationship to a man. Don’t be too aggressive. You may for once act as you are not available when he asks a dinner or something. A man is usually curious before he can make a date with a girl he is interested to.
Always give a perfect smile to everyone and especially to someone you are interested to. Then talk interestingly so that he will increasingly amaze your great personality.
Getting a boyfriend is not hard when you are sure you can do it; read some tips to dress up well as the body shape you have and learn more to be an interesting girl so you will be soon asked out for a date by someone you admire.
Posted By admin on September 11, 2009
By Mey Lia
Having a long distance relationship is a hard to do. It is a hard commitment to keep your heart still for your beloved and trust him/ her to keep your love. Most of relationships that are done in a long distance are broken up. It is not only because of the couple can’t keep their each heart but also some fights that happen only because the jealousy and distrust.
Such relationship is yes hard to be kept, yet you certainly don’t hope to lose your beloved one and break the relationship. That is why you have to keep it healthy and long lasting till he/ she back close to you. The first requirement in a long distance relationship is communication.
You have to keep a good communication between both of you. You can call him/ her regularly; you can make an agreement to have a special time when both of you are free. There are also kinds of other media to communicate such as internet, sms, letter, postcard, etc.
Never forget special days such as birthday, anniversary day, and many more. You can have live chat to see each other; you can see your beloved one regularly there. Just send some romantic words or something that is loved most by email or physical letter so that you can show that you always remember him/ her. When you a chance to meet; use it maximally and make it memorable; because a deep feeling will grow up your relationship more and more.
Posted By admin on September 10, 2009
By Mey Lia
You certainly have had a bad memory of your last relationship. Everyone has it and ever felt hurt from a break up. There are some people between us who can’t start a new relationship because of the condition of heart and emotional so it is hard to start a new relationship and loving again someone else.
If you are one of such people; you can’t let it last longer or you will never find someone anymore. One of the factors of it may be an unfinished business of you and someone you loved in past. You have to finish the business and get free of psychology to start a new relationship.
The unfinished business may be such as the unclear status of you and your ex; whether you have broken up or not. You have to make it clear. Meet him/ her, talk, and make a clear status so the business is finished.
You shouldn’t be so emotional; be mature and it is OK to ask a forgiveness of all your faults. Tell him/ her about something that hasn’t told yet before. You can talk wisely so there will not any anger and then make sure that you break up. With the clear status gotten from unemotional communication you will be sure that you have to find another one to love and having a new relationship without guilty feeling.
Posted By admin on September 9, 2009
By Mey Lia
Everybody needs love and affection. Perhaps, when we still a little child, we never think about that because the love from our parents is more than everything. Of course, it is changing when we have growth to a teenage or even adult; love from someone special is really needed. However there are some of us who often feel no self confidence to get closer to someone and even starting to make a date with him or her.
Actually, self confidence is the first factor that has to be had by you to get someone you like. That is why you have to gain your self confidence by;
- Understanding what is the factor that makes you lose your self confidence such as a bad past memory, your body that is not propositional, bad job, etc. By finding the factors; you have to understand it so it won’t be a problem for yourself.
- Finding something special in you such as a good talent in music, good sense of humor, your intelligence, skill to manage something, etc. You can be proud of that so you may get more self confidence.
- Changing something that becomes your bad lifestyle and bad habit. It may create good feeling, happiness and then get self confidence.
With a better self confidence; you certainly can simply get a date by asking him/ her confidently. Trust yourself that you can and will be confidence in just simple action; asking for a date.
