Posted By admin on December 27, 2009

By Mey Lia

Have you ever felt lonely though you have lots of friends surrounding you? Did you ever feel that you need someone to understand you more than your couple understands you?

If you felt that way, you need an intimacy with your couple to share of deep feeling and secrets. It’s useless even though you have a lot of friends but you have never been able to be open to them, then you will still feel lonely. And one thing that I can assure you that the loneliness will cause a depression.

Why sometimes it happens in our life that two of close friends can fall in love with each others? It’s because sometimes they feel lonely and they feel that they can complement each other, when they shared of their burden, they can feel relate and then the feeling gradually is starting to grow and it made them to fall in love to compensate their feelings of loneliness.

So the point is that you can sometimes fall in love often and easily with your close friends not because of you really love them, instead of both of you feeling lonely, but if it’s the reason you fall in love with someone, then the result is not good at the end as it will cause a break up.

If you’re in a relationship, but still you feel lonely then there is an intimacy problem between two of you. You must ask these questions: did you really share everything each other such as your emotions, secrets, etc? or you just keep hiding your feeling? Because if you’re not open toward each other, it will reduce intimacy between two of you and it will surely increase the feeling of loneliness yet you’re in a relationship.

So if you want to stop your loneliness and to deal with it, then you must form intimate relationship with your close friends and be open to them. If you’re in a relationship, then you have to share your deepest emotions and secrets with your partner, share your problems with him or her and please try to avoid sacrificing intimacy just because for acceptance.