Posted By admin on July 7, 2009

By Mey Lia

As you might now that it’s so painful and really difficult when we have to deal with a breakup with someone we love. Whether it’s intimate friendship or close relationship that we have to end, it’s so painful. We will lose so many things such as the dreams that we have shared together in the past.

I’m so sure that if possible, we want to move onto a new relationship without any traumatic of our past, right? Maybe you can try to reflect on some points below for you to be able to move onto a new relationship.

When your thoughts no longer occupied by your past.

If you are mentally focused on someone else, I’m sure that you will not be able and it will be so difficult for you to move ahead with a new person. Your thoughts will be fully occupied by your ex during a breakup, things such as – what if I had not made a mistake, what if things were somehow different, and still a lot of “what if”. And I’m sure that it will be no longer the primary force in your life if you can erase these past relationship thoughts with your ex.

When you’re no longer upset when dealing with your ex.

There will be a time when you are much less emotional and will me more easier to deal with your ex.

When you’re no longer trying to please your ex.

When you breakup with your ex, you will have no more obligations to please them nor do something special that you usually used to do for them. So every all obligations that you usually do for them in order to please them, it’s all over when you reach a breakup.

You no longer talk about your ex anymore in every conversation you might have with your friends.

In our life, we tend to think and talk about the most important things in our lives. It means when you are talking or discussing with someone about everything, and you are no longer talking about your ex, so you can move on with your new life.

You no longer feel the romantic feelings you have ever had with your ex.

After our breakup, we all harbor feelings toward our ex. You have to recover it considerably when they subside.

You are no longer experiencing hurt feeling to know the fact that your ex might already have a new partner.

There is not a feeling of jealousy because the emotional tie has worn off.

You no longer have bitterness or angry at your ex.

Usually, during a breakup, we feel intensely angry with our ex. But when former partners no longer evoke anger, one has become detached emotionally.

Unless you get over of these feelings and attachments, you must wait and reflect, or else you’re not ready yet to move onto a new relationship with someone. It’s natural if it seems so difficult for us to overcome those feelings as everyone who has ever experienced a breakup must go through them. We must believe and have faith and have a positive approach to life.